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Elizabeth Beniush
B: 1921-11-26
D: 2020-01-24
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Beniush, Elizabeth
Josephine Gibson
B: 1933-10-06
D: 2020-01-22
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Gibson, Josephine
Thomas Giblin
B: 1929-09-09
D: 2020-01-21
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Giblin, Thomas
Anne Cooke
B: 1934-04-17
D: 2020-01-21
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Cooke, Anne
Patricia McKenna
B: 1952-12-31
D: 2020-01-20
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McKenna, Patricia
Marie Esposito
B: 1923-06-11
D: 2020-01-19
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Esposito, Marie
Lamont Barnes
B: 1951-05-22
D: 2020-01-18
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Barnes, Lamont
Robert Sharkey
B: 1941-02-01
D: 2020-01-18
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Sharkey, Robert
Patrick Ward
B: 1930-08-07
D: 2020-01-17
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Ward, Patrick
Bonnie Hall
B: 1952-05-24
D: 2020-01-16
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Hall, Bonnie
Carmen Rivera
B: 1958-02-17
D: 2020-01-16
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Rivera, Carmen
Florence Kasper
B: 1928-01-05
D: 2020-01-10
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Kasper, Florence
June Bardi
B: 1956-07-08
D: 2020-01-10
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Bardi, June
Carolyn Rotonda
B: 1925-03-07
D: 2020-01-09
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Rotonda, Carolyn
Angela Passaretti
B: 1935-08-01
D: 2020-01-08
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Passaretti, Angela
James Conaghan
B: 1946-12-30
D: 2020-01-07
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Conaghan, James
Kevin Melia
B: 1956-12-25
D: 2020-01-07
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Melia, Kevin
Michelina DeRiggi
B: 1938-02-23
D: 2020-01-06
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DeRiggi, Michelina
Robert Crossken
B: 1945-10-22
D: 2020-01-04
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Crossken, Robert
Helen Smith
B: 1926-07-20
D: 2020-01-02
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Smith, Helen
Camille Sanfilippo
B: 1947-07-03
D: 2020-01-01
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Sanfilippo, Camille

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Grieving with Purpose

No one is prepared for grief. The rush of feelings, the thoughts, anxieties, and heartache can take us by surprise and drive us to our knees. Yet, when we choose to harness that power for self-growth, amazing things can happen. Good can come from pain.

Sigmund Freud first brought up the concept of grief work in 1917, and today the idea that bereavement is purpose-driven continues.

Dr. James Worden chose to see the work of bereavement as task-oriented:

Your current job is to focus your attention on achieving each of those goals. It will not occur in any logical order; each of us is different and the path we walk in the bereavement journey is not a straight one.

Dealing with grief is hard work. It takes both courage and hard work to successfully adapt to the loss of a significant person in your life.

Six Signposts Along Your Journey

Dr. Stephen Joseph identifies what he calls six signposts to facilitate posttraumatic growth. He reminds readers too that "posttraumatic growth does not imply the absence of emotional distress and difficulties in living. It does imply that it is possible through the struggle to come out on the other side, stronger and more philosophical about life."

Before identifying these six signposts, Dr. Joseph reminds his readers of three very important things:

He also provides a fundamental rule: don't do anything you might not be able to handle now. "If you experience intense emotions, become physically upset, or begin to panic...stop." He gently reminds readers that "having a sense of personal control over your recovery is important. There might be some things you do not feel ready to handle now, but in time, as you discover new strength and develop new coping skills, this will likely change."




"By focusing on these six signposts," writes Dr. Joseph, "you will find that your posttraumatic growth is beginning to take root."

Sources: 
Freud, Sigmund. On the History of the Psycho-Analytic Movement Papers on Metaphyschology and Other Works.
Worden, James. Grief Counseling & Grief Therapy: A Handbook for the Mental Health Practitioner

Fleming, Stephen. The Changing Face of Grief: From 'Going On to 'On-Going''
Joseph, Stephen. What Doesn't Kill Us: the New Psychology of Posttraumatic Growth